Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Open Your Heart To Love - A Powerful Dating Tip For Ladies

This is a simple and highly effective visualization technique that can assist you open your coronary heart to love and men. Sit in a snug position and shut your eyes. Turn out to be aware of your respiratory, slowly inhaling and exhaling to the depend of seven, for at the very least three to five cycles. Imagine a ravishing pink rose or other multi-petal flower in bud kind that resides in the heart of your heart. The petals are fresh and tightly certain, protecting the fragile center. Notice the inherent beauty of this bud and all the fabulous potential it contains.

Subsequent, give yourself permission to slowly and gently open that bud and your heart. In your thoughts, say these words, “I open my coronary heart to love. Could divine love stream by me, from me, and to me.” Bathe yourself in this movement of affection and really feel it wash over you. Then, slowly, visualize the petals of your bud unfolding. Think about them gracefully and tenderly unwinding, and loosening up bit by bit. The more the flower opens, the more your coronary heart opens, and the extra you are feeling the energy of love flowing all around.

Proceed visualizing till the bud transforms into a fully blossomed flower, petals spread huge facing the sun. See it and yourself with all your amazing interior beauty. Lastly, categorical gratitude for this profound experience of affection and your newly discovered openness. Once you feel complete, open your eyes returning to full consciousness to get pleasure from a love-stuffed day!

This exercise can take as little as one minute or as long as 30 minutes. Choose the timing that feels proper to you. In case you notice any hesitancy in opening the blossom absolutely, be happy to cease where you are snug after which visualize a little extra progress the next time you try the technique.

Observe this visualization in case you have any concerns or negativity about men or love. If you wish to find that genuine heart-connection with the best man, you may want an open heart. The extra you’re employed with the train, the extra you will move via your day in an open manner. Males will see you as protected to method and be more keen to start out a conversation. Open your heart and watch what a difference it makes in your love life.

Three Sided Love

A standard theme for a lot of romance novels is that they use characters being torn between two individuals at the similar time. A great instance to describe a love triangle would be the relationships between King Arthur, Queen Guinevere, and first knight Sir Lancelot. Both males love Guinevere; her confused coronary heart loves both males back. In real life, we definitely don’t sit up for situations resembling this; it never makes for a happy or wholesome home. Nevertheless, in books readers crave excitement and unexpected twists. The love triangle is a device that provides pressure, causes drama, and provides spice to whatever different plots is perhaps present.

Let’s talk about some explanation why authors use ‘love triangles’ in a romance story.

Why have the characters compete towards each other for love?

Good romance stories usually use conflicts and overcoming obstacles to maintain their readers in suspense. Inserting a love triangle is an easy solution to complicate the relationship without sacrificing the romance. The indecision of the character in question might have your readers connect with the story and the occasions taking place. It’s much more than only a story when readers find themselves emotionally invested in the character’s selections and what’s going to happen to them because of those choices.

Why does someone develop into extra attractive once they’re unavailable?

For some purpose there are individuals who find others more fascinating or engaging when someone else is already taken. It could possibly be that the ‘chase’ is what they find most desirable. Folks want what they cannot have. They generally do not discover what has been underneath their eyes your entire time until another person factors it out. It is like when stock goes up, suddenly everyone needs a share. Since this typically occurs in reality, it appears natural when it occurs in story, making it easy for the readers to narrate to each side of the coin.

How do you resolve a ‘love triangle’?

If characters are concerned in a love triangle, clearly somebody’s feelings need to change. Your readers are going to desire a decision to the issues occurring. If the story stays the identical and you end the story with the character nonetheless unsure of who to decide on, then there is not any actual progression. You may’t build the readers expectations up and then by no means fulfill them with a proper conclusion. They won’t be happy with the outcome. As your story progresses, the readers could change their opinions about who they need the character to be with romantically. If you’re the writer and are unsure about how to resolve the triangle, then you could want to let the characters’ interactions lead you to the shock ending! We might not welcome indecision with regards to love in real life, nevertheless it’s straightforward to appreciate why we welcome them in stories.

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Dating Advice


When it comes to conversation, sometimes less is more. People who speed-talk, interrogate, brag, blab the family secrets or don't allow you to have one single moment's peace of mind are control freaks. It's like they think that if they are not talking, that they don't somehow exist. It also makes you wonder if you are allowed to have a thought that is NOT about them.
Also, never get too sarcastic. One sure turn-off, for most dates, is the over-use of unsolicited sarcasm. A sarcastic type will tell you that sarcasm is actually a device that is used to charm or woo the opposite sex. That it is a form of humor or discourse that many find witty and entertaining. That it is a way to demonstrate superior intelligence, or your prodigious powers of clarity, precision and personal observation.

Sarcasm is an obvious defense mechanism that is used to mask or disguise something deeply twisted in the personality. Instead of being sarcastic, why don't you just wear a T-shirt that says "Needy, approval seeking and insecure." Most sarcasm sounds like criticism, and criticism (especially if it isn't asked for) is recognized nowadays as verbal abuse.

Never ever lie about your past. Let's face it. Not everyone comes with a clean resume when it comes to relationships. Almost everybody has big mistakes, embarrassments and down right tragedies in his or her past. The question is, how much do you tell your new partner and how much do you lie about it?

There are two schools of thought about this. I tend to lean on the side that says it is a big mistake to talk about your exes to the new amour. For one thing, it can arouse unnecessary jealousy. Take it from someone who has gone out with someone whose previous girlfriend was a supermodel. Believe me, you lie there wondering all night how you could possible compete with the past...

I believe that the less your partner knows about your sordid past the better, yet it is still a bad idea to lie to them if a certain subject that relates to your past comes up. The only possible exception to this rule is the "How many people have you slept with" question. If the number is over seventy and you are only twenty-five and female, it might be a good idea to subtract a few paramours.

"Never ever say I love you (unless you mean it)"

It is a cliche, but apparently playing "hard to get" actually works. It seems that the primal baby that is within all of us just can't stand being left out and ignored and will actually start seeking approval from those who seem to be withholding their affections. Both sexes are apparently turned off by displays of neediness and emotional security, so whatever you do don't reveal how lonely you are, don't reveal anything about your intentions and never ever beg for sex. And if you want to kill the potential relationship, completely, just utter these words "I love you" too soon into the relationship. As most women will tell you, it makes men run screaming for the hills.

Although most of us often feel compelled to be honest, it is not always the best approach when it comes to being a strategist in love. As twentieth-century wit Dorothy Parker said, "Spilling your guts is as ugly as it sounds...."

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Looking for Love Online

Is the super-information highway still the road to nowhere when it comes to finding a life partner? Like most people, I used to think that the love-lorn who spent their long lonely hours hanging around in chat rooms, looking at message boards and peeling through thousands of so-called "love matches" on web personals were, well... losers.
Only really desperate, ugly people who were perhaps also emotionally sick would have to resort to using a computer to find the love of their life. And if you did find someone, he or she couldn't possibly be serious ... married, lonely or perhaps even a stalker.

In the past year, however, I have had to revise my opinion somewhat, lest I offend two of my best friends, who both have found husbands as a result of surfing the Internet. Also it seems lately, that everybody knows somebody who has found a marriage partner by resorting to, what still seems to me, to be a drastic and also somewhat risky measure.

I couldn't find any reliable statistics about this relatively new phenomenon, about how many people are finding true love this way or how long the marriages last, but at this point, I have to believe my own eyes. Maybe the internet isn't such a bad matchmaker...

Friday, July 23, 2010

Desperate for love and passion and romance

Some people resort to somewhat drastic measures when they are desperate for love.

They seek out love advice from friends who are in successful marriages. Or just long-term relationships. But some people focus in on one person they have a crush on and try anything to make that person return the feelings.
Here's a story of one such person names Louise.
Once upon a time, Louise had a crush on a guy named Mike. She and Mike were good friends, but Louise could tell there was something more there. However, she was always the one to initiate any contact between them. When they were together, it seemed as though Mike was constantly flirting with her. He always sent mixed messages, and she always made herself available to him. This went on (and off, and on) for ten years or so. But it was hard to ever call it true love.

Finally, she had to know what he was thinking, but she was to afraid to find out from him. So Louise went to a psychic and asked her to place a love spell on Mike. The psychic said she shouldn't do that because then she'd always know that Mike didn't love her on his own. Louise said she could live with that. Then the psychic agreed to it, professing that her love spells didn't always work, but she would try. And try she did. But, alas, it didn't work. Finally one day, Louise gave up on Mike.

Many years later, Louise found true love with someone else and lived happily ever after.

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The efforts of her husband to retain her love

Her new husband wrote her love poems to profess his love, and she never had to wonder how he felt. This was great because she felt the same way back. Still, whenever she saw Mike, she thought about his love letters and got that old rush of butterflies in her stomach even though she loved her husband dearly. Mike was, and always would be, Louise's unrequited love. Almost everyone has one of those. But she experienced the kind of love with her husband that made her glad things turned out the way they did.

Everyone is different and it can be a very long road to lasting happiness. Whether romance, to you, means you're writing love letter or something else, it takes work to keep one moving in the right direction and it takes a lot of strength to leave one behind when it does not meet your needs. There are always plenty of other people out there! Many of whom are just a love poem away.

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Is Sex Before Marriage Wrong?

It proved something to me - did it?
I do not argue one way or the other about sex before marriage but how does Angela know you will regret it if you don't wait since she did wait. She may not regret waiting but that's different to saying you will regret a circumstance you have never been in.
—Guest John
whos really right
I dont think people should be quoting the bible, because unless they were alive all those years ago. they shouldnt say unless they lived in those times. My personal believes i think its ok to have sex before marriage cause then you can feel the wonders of pleasure, with the person you love the most. Nobody should be jugde by there choices.
—Guest restless
ISBMW?
No, it is not wrong. But is it right? What is best depends. On you and your circumstances. Who will decide what is best for you to do? Either one of you, or both, or if you feel you can't manage that, a good advisor if you can find one. Any authority that is not adjusted to your specific needs is hardly to be recommended.
—gurthbruins
Don't Do What You Don't Want to Do
I just wanted to weigh in and say that no one should feel forced or obligated to have sex before, during, or after a marriage. Sex should be something you and your partner want to do together. And you should both have the desire for it. It is best when the two of you love and trust each other.
—FrancescaDiMeglio
Gods design
God's design for sex is that it is fine to have sex out of wedlock, and with as many partners as is natural. Its clear that in some cases the woman will kill and eat her male partner after intercourse, or that either parent will abandon the children to fend for themselves. Doesn't God intend his design to be applied to all his creation. Look at his other creations where is the requirement for other creatures to get married before sex? We as humans seem to fall under different designs, with more restrictions and rules. Why are we singled out for more control under God's design? All the bible verses above speak only of respecting the union of marriage, that once you are betrothed you should respect the partner and keep your lustful thoughts under control. Respect the marriage bed, sure but where are the verses telling us that premarital sex is evil? The verse about seducing an unmarried virgin doesn't condemn the man, it simply commands he should marry her or pay a fee.
—Guest Tap
is sex before marriage wrong?
i just want to know if i am a bad christiant by having sex before mariage?in my case i realy dont want to do it ,but i have to because i need help from my boyfriend to pay my rent and my phone bill i am an imigrant without papers to works and my life is so hard,
—Guest alicia
What I think
The real question is: Is sex after marriage wrong?
—Guest Sodom Hussein
make up your own minds!
to guest sarah: 1 CALM DOWN! you don't bleed the first time u have sex, and if u didn't , good, ur not supposed too. There are A LOT of myths about these sorts of things, pls do some research! 2-Stop replying on god as ur defence, make up your own minds. sex is useful for many things, intimacy, boosting self esteem, revenge, getting off, love making, making babies etc. The act and the first act are special only by virtue that its the FIRST of something. Its not about love or commitment, you just need to care about the person and have them care about u right back. Life is short, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea, & statistically speaking, there are thousands of 'soul mates' for everyone. Saving yourself for one, that u have 50% chance of divorcing is just silly. Abstain if u want, but for a good reason, don't do it cause someone has always said it is wrong, how do YOU feel about it?! If u are with someone, u care about each other, and u want to express that, then there is no problem
—Guest Guest Bella
sex before marriage is totally wrong
marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled is the bible stand, so if done before marriage one has gone against what the bible stipulates
—Guest olusegun olakotan
it proved something to me
I asked the man I am dating, whom I absolutely love, if he would be willing to wait until marriage for sex with me, and without hesitation, he supported my decision (and he's not religious). He respects my religion, me, and my beliefs to trust that I made the request because it is what I want for us. Most other men, if you asked that of them, would leave you. We've learned more about each other because of breaking that barrier and truly learning that we support each other no matter what! Hearing him say he would wait WITH me made my heart flutter because it just showed how God blessed me with a good man who supports me! Wait! If you don't, you will regret it. God bless!
—Guest angela
undecided
I am a Christian, and I do beleive that waiting for sex until marriage is the best choice, but not only for religious purposes, but for your physical and mental health. On the other hand, I am very open to both sides. I do not look down on those who have had sex, and don't neccesarily glorify those who wait, but I can see the benefits of waiting. I know if your partner truly loves you you can wait, but what if you truly want to be with that person intimately? I do not beleive God will strike you down for it, but I do beleive he gave us this gift to present to the one we are meant to be with. But like my response title states, I am confused because I don't have a problem with either.
—Guest confused
God abhors it - It is a Sinful Act
The words of the scripture on this matter is clear and unequivocal. Christian, there is no room for you to compromise on this matter and use the standards of the world as a justification for engaging in such an act. Christian are in this world but not of the world. Noah and his family in the mist of all the sinful act of the world at that time was still able to maintain his purity to the lord. Paul writes to the Corinthian church in I Corinthians 6:12 that "everything is permissible.. - but not everything is beneficial". the body is not meant for sexual immorality and sex before marriage is a sexually immoral act. Your body is for the Lord. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do not base your judgment on what you feel is right or wrong because you are not your own for Christ is the lord of all lives. FLEE FROM SEXUAL IMMORALITY.
—Guest Gyabeng Henry R..
Against Sex before Marriage
sex before marriage is wrong for one one it doesn't make your friend love you instead he will feel you've had it with several others,and most especially the marriage will not be built on a solid rock which is God because in his eyes is bad imagine a marriage where God's hand is not in it, though is not easy to be chaste but there are benefits. one God will be happy, and in the marriage there will be trust for each partner.
—Guest peace
EVEN ADAM HAD TO WAIT
YES MY FRIENDS EVEN ADAM HAD TO WAIT UNTIL GOD GAVE HIM THE PERFECT PARTNER IF WE WAIT FOR GOD WILL JUST AS HE HAD REMOVED FLESH FROM ADAM AND MADE EVE IN THE SAME WAY HE WOULD FIND A GIRL/BOY AFTER YOUR OWN HEART AND SAME MIND SAME LIKES SAME DISLIKES SO THAT YOU CAN HARDLY FIND ANY DIFFERENCE IN YOUR THINKING .EVEN ISAAC HAD TO AND ABOVE ALL WE SHOULD KEEP OUR SELVES PURE TO MEET OUR HEAVENLY BRIDE JESUS WITH WHOM WE ARE GONNA BE TOGETHER HAPPILY FOREVER HEY ALL CHRISTIAN SINGLES GOD CAN HELP US
—Guest david michael