Is the super-information highway still the road to nowhere when it comes to finding a life partner? Like most people, I used to think that the love-lorn who spent their long lonely hours hanging around in chat rooms, looking at message boards and peeling through thousands of so-called "love matches" on web personals were, well... losers.
Only really desperate, ugly people who were perhaps also emotionally sick would have to resort to using a computer to find the love of their life. And if you did find someone, he or she couldn't possibly be serious ... married, lonely or perhaps even a stalker.
In the past year, however, I have had to revise my opinion somewhat, lest I offend two of my best friends, who both have found husbands as a result of surfing the Internet. Also it seems lately, that everybody knows somebody who has found a marriage partner by resorting to, what still seems to me, to be a drastic and also somewhat risky measure.
I couldn't find any reliable statistics about this relatively new phenomenon, about how many people are finding true love this way or how long the marriages last, but at this point, I have to believe my own eyes. Maybe the internet isn't such a bad matchmaker...
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Friday, July 23, 2010
Desperate for love and passion and romance
Some people resort to somewhat drastic measures when they are desperate for love.
They seek out love advice from friends who are in successful marriages. Or just long-term relationships. But some people focus in on one person they have a crush on and try anything to make that person return the feelings.
Here's a story of one such person names Louise.
Once upon a time, Louise had a crush on a guy named Mike. She and Mike were good friends, but Louise could tell there was something more there. However, she was always the one to initiate any contact between them. When they were together, it seemed as though Mike was constantly flirting with her. He always sent mixed messages, and she always made herself available to him. This went on (and off, and on) for ten years or so. But it was hard to ever call it true love.
Finally, she had to know what he was thinking, but she was to afraid to find out from him. So Louise went to a psychic and asked her to place a love spell on Mike. The psychic said she shouldn't do that because then she'd always know that Mike didn't love her on his own. Louise said she could live with that. Then the psychic agreed to it, professing that her love spells didn't always work, but she would try. And try she did. But, alas, it didn't work. Finally one day, Louise gave up on Mike.
Many years later, Louise found true love with someone else and lived happily ever after.
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The efforts of her husband to retain her love
Her new husband wrote her love poems to profess his love, and she never had to wonder how he felt. This was great because she felt the same way back. Still, whenever she saw Mike, she thought about his love letters and got that old rush of butterflies in her stomach even though she loved her husband dearly. Mike was, and always would be, Louise's unrequited love. Almost everyone has one of those. But she experienced the kind of love with her husband that made her glad things turned out the way they did.
Everyone is different and it can be a very long road to lasting happiness. Whether romance, to you, means you're writing love letter or something else, it takes work to keep one moving in the right direction and it takes a lot of strength to leave one behind when it does not meet your needs. There are always plenty of other people out there! Many of whom are just a love poem away.
They seek out love advice from friends who are in successful marriages. Or just long-term relationships. But some people focus in on one person they have a crush on and try anything to make that person return the feelings.
Here's a story of one such person names Louise.
Once upon a time, Louise had a crush on a guy named Mike. She and Mike were good friends, but Louise could tell there was something more there. However, she was always the one to initiate any contact between them. When they were together, it seemed as though Mike was constantly flirting with her. He always sent mixed messages, and she always made herself available to him. This went on (and off, and on) for ten years or so. But it was hard to ever call it true love.
Finally, she had to know what he was thinking, but she was to afraid to find out from him. So Louise went to a psychic and asked her to place a love spell on Mike. The psychic said she shouldn't do that because then she'd always know that Mike didn't love her on his own. Louise said she could live with that. Then the psychic agreed to it, professing that her love spells didn't always work, but she would try. And try she did. But, alas, it didn't work. Finally one day, Louise gave up on Mike.
Many years later, Louise found true love with someone else and lived happily ever after.
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The efforts of her husband to retain her love
Her new husband wrote her love poems to profess his love, and she never had to wonder how he felt. This was great because she felt the same way back. Still, whenever she saw Mike, she thought about his love letters and got that old rush of butterflies in her stomach even though she loved her husband dearly. Mike was, and always would be, Louise's unrequited love. Almost everyone has one of those. But she experienced the kind of love with her husband that made her glad things turned out the way they did.
Everyone is different and it can be a very long road to lasting happiness. Whether romance, to you, means you're writing love letter or something else, it takes work to keep one moving in the right direction and it takes a lot of strength to leave one behind when it does not meet your needs. There are always plenty of other people out there! Many of whom are just a love poem away.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Is Sex Before Marriage Wrong?
It proved something to me - did it?
I do not argue one way or the other about sex before marriage but how does Angela know you will regret it if you don't wait since she did wait. She may not regret waiting but that's different to saying you will regret a circumstance you have never been in.
—Guest John
whos really right
I dont think people should be quoting the bible, because unless they were alive all those years ago. they shouldnt say unless they lived in those times. My personal believes i think its ok to have sex before marriage cause then you can feel the wonders of pleasure, with the person you love the most. Nobody should be jugde by there choices.
—Guest restless
ISBMW?
No, it is not wrong. But is it right? What is best depends. On you and your circumstances. Who will decide what is best for you to do? Either one of you, or both, or if you feel you can't manage that, a good advisor if you can find one. Any authority that is not adjusted to your specific needs is hardly to be recommended.
—gurthbruins
Don't Do What You Don't Want to Do
I just wanted to weigh in and say that no one should feel forced or obligated to have sex before, during, or after a marriage. Sex should be something you and your partner want to do together. And you should both have the desire for it. It is best when the two of you love and trust each other.
—FrancescaDiMeglio
Gods design
God's design for sex is that it is fine to have sex out of wedlock, and with as many partners as is natural. Its clear that in some cases the woman will kill and eat her male partner after intercourse, or that either parent will abandon the children to fend for themselves. Doesn't God intend his design to be applied to all his creation. Look at his other creations where is the requirement for other creatures to get married before sex? We as humans seem to fall under different designs, with more restrictions and rules. Why are we singled out for more control under God's design? All the bible verses above speak only of respecting the union of marriage, that once you are betrothed you should respect the partner and keep your lustful thoughts under control. Respect the marriage bed, sure but where are the verses telling us that premarital sex is evil? The verse about seducing an unmarried virgin doesn't condemn the man, it simply commands he should marry her or pay a fee.
—Guest Tap
is sex before marriage wrong?
i just want to know if i am a bad christiant by having sex before mariage?in my case i realy dont want to do it ,but i have to because i need help from my boyfriend to pay my rent and my phone bill i am an imigrant without papers to works and my life is so hard,
—Guest alicia
What I think
The real question is: Is sex after marriage wrong?
—Guest Sodom Hussein
make up your own minds!
to guest sarah: 1 CALM DOWN! you don't bleed the first time u have sex, and if u didn't , good, ur not supposed too. There are A LOT of myths about these sorts of things, pls do some research! 2-Stop replying on god as ur defence, make up your own minds. sex is useful for many things, intimacy, boosting self esteem, revenge, getting off, love making, making babies etc. The act and the first act are special only by virtue that its the FIRST of something. Its not about love or commitment, you just need to care about the person and have them care about u right back. Life is short, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea, & statistically speaking, there are thousands of 'soul mates' for everyone. Saving yourself for one, that u have 50% chance of divorcing is just silly. Abstain if u want, but for a good reason, don't do it cause someone has always said it is wrong, how do YOU feel about it?! If u are with someone, u care about each other, and u want to express that, then there is no problem
—Guest Guest Bella
sex before marriage is totally wrong
marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled is the bible stand, so if done before marriage one has gone against what the bible stipulates
—Guest olusegun olakotan
it proved something to me
I asked the man I am dating, whom I absolutely love, if he would be willing to wait until marriage for sex with me, and without hesitation, he supported my decision (and he's not religious). He respects my religion, me, and my beliefs to trust that I made the request because it is what I want for us. Most other men, if you asked that of them, would leave you. We've learned more about each other because of breaking that barrier and truly learning that we support each other no matter what! Hearing him say he would wait WITH me made my heart flutter because it just showed how God blessed me with a good man who supports me! Wait! If you don't, you will regret it. God bless!
—Guest angela
undecided
I am a Christian, and I do beleive that waiting for sex until marriage is the best choice, but not only for religious purposes, but for your physical and mental health. On the other hand, I am very open to both sides. I do not look down on those who have had sex, and don't neccesarily glorify those who wait, but I can see the benefits of waiting. I know if your partner truly loves you you can wait, but what if you truly want to be with that person intimately? I do not beleive God will strike you down for it, but I do beleive he gave us this gift to present to the one we are meant to be with. But like my response title states, I am confused because I don't have a problem with either.
—Guest confused
God abhors it - It is a Sinful Act
The words of the scripture on this matter is clear and unequivocal. Christian, there is no room for you to compromise on this matter and use the standards of the world as a justification for engaging in such an act. Christian are in this world but not of the world. Noah and his family in the mist of all the sinful act of the world at that time was still able to maintain his purity to the lord. Paul writes to the Corinthian church in I Corinthians 6:12 that "everything is permissible.. - but not everything is beneficial". the body is not meant for sexual immorality and sex before marriage is a sexually immoral act. Your body is for the Lord. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do not base your judgment on what you feel is right or wrong because you are not your own for Christ is the lord of all lives. FLEE FROM SEXUAL IMMORALITY.
—Guest Gyabeng Henry R..
Against Sex before Marriage
sex before marriage is wrong for one one it doesn't make your friend love you instead he will feel you've had it with several others,and most especially the marriage will not be built on a solid rock which is God because in his eyes is bad imagine a marriage where God's hand is not in it, though is not easy to be chaste but there are benefits. one God will be happy, and in the marriage there will be trust for each partner.
—Guest peace
EVEN ADAM HAD TO WAIT
YES MY FRIENDS EVEN ADAM HAD TO WAIT UNTIL GOD GAVE HIM THE PERFECT PARTNER IF WE WAIT FOR GOD WILL JUST AS HE HAD REMOVED FLESH FROM ADAM AND MADE EVE IN THE SAME WAY HE WOULD FIND A GIRL/BOY AFTER YOUR OWN HEART AND SAME MIND SAME LIKES SAME DISLIKES SO THAT YOU CAN HARDLY FIND ANY DIFFERENCE IN YOUR THINKING .EVEN ISAAC HAD TO AND ABOVE ALL WE SHOULD KEEP OUR SELVES PURE TO MEET OUR HEAVENLY BRIDE JESUS WITH WHOM WE ARE GONNA BE TOGETHER HAPPILY FOREVER HEY ALL CHRISTIAN SINGLES GOD CAN HELP US
—Guest david michael
I do not argue one way or the other about sex before marriage but how does Angela know you will regret it if you don't wait since she did wait. She may not regret waiting but that's different to saying you will regret a circumstance you have never been in.
—Guest John
whos really right
I dont think people should be quoting the bible, because unless they were alive all those years ago. they shouldnt say unless they lived in those times. My personal believes i think its ok to have sex before marriage cause then you can feel the wonders of pleasure, with the person you love the most. Nobody should be jugde by there choices.
—Guest restless
ISBMW?
No, it is not wrong. But is it right? What is best depends. On you and your circumstances. Who will decide what is best for you to do? Either one of you, or both, or if you feel you can't manage that, a good advisor if you can find one. Any authority that is not adjusted to your specific needs is hardly to be recommended.
—gurthbruins
Don't Do What You Don't Want to Do
I just wanted to weigh in and say that no one should feel forced or obligated to have sex before, during, or after a marriage. Sex should be something you and your partner want to do together. And you should both have the desire for it. It is best when the two of you love and trust each other.
—FrancescaDiMeglio
Gods design
God's design for sex is that it is fine to have sex out of wedlock, and with as many partners as is natural. Its clear that in some cases the woman will kill and eat her male partner after intercourse, or that either parent will abandon the children to fend for themselves. Doesn't God intend his design to be applied to all his creation. Look at his other creations where is the requirement for other creatures to get married before sex? We as humans seem to fall under different designs, with more restrictions and rules. Why are we singled out for more control under God's design? All the bible verses above speak only of respecting the union of marriage, that once you are betrothed you should respect the partner and keep your lustful thoughts under control. Respect the marriage bed, sure but where are the verses telling us that premarital sex is evil? The verse about seducing an unmarried virgin doesn't condemn the man, it simply commands he should marry her or pay a fee.
—Guest Tap
is sex before marriage wrong?
i just want to know if i am a bad christiant by having sex before mariage?in my case i realy dont want to do it ,but i have to because i need help from my boyfriend to pay my rent and my phone bill i am an imigrant without papers to works and my life is so hard,
—Guest alicia
What I think
The real question is: Is sex after marriage wrong?
—Guest Sodom Hussein
make up your own minds!
to guest sarah: 1 CALM DOWN! you don't bleed the first time u have sex, and if u didn't , good, ur not supposed too. There are A LOT of myths about these sorts of things, pls do some research! 2-Stop replying on god as ur defence, make up your own minds. sex is useful for many things, intimacy, boosting self esteem, revenge, getting off, love making, making babies etc. The act and the first act are special only by virtue that its the FIRST of something. Its not about love or commitment, you just need to care about the person and have them care about u right back. Life is short, there are PLENTY of fish in the sea, & statistically speaking, there are thousands of 'soul mates' for everyone. Saving yourself for one, that u have 50% chance of divorcing is just silly. Abstain if u want, but for a good reason, don't do it cause someone has always said it is wrong, how do YOU feel about it?! If u are with someone, u care about each other, and u want to express that, then there is no problem
—Guest Guest Bella
sex before marriage is totally wrong
marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled is the bible stand, so if done before marriage one has gone against what the bible stipulates
—Guest olusegun olakotan
it proved something to me
I asked the man I am dating, whom I absolutely love, if he would be willing to wait until marriage for sex with me, and without hesitation, he supported my decision (and he's not religious). He respects my religion, me, and my beliefs to trust that I made the request because it is what I want for us. Most other men, if you asked that of them, would leave you. We've learned more about each other because of breaking that barrier and truly learning that we support each other no matter what! Hearing him say he would wait WITH me made my heart flutter because it just showed how God blessed me with a good man who supports me! Wait! If you don't, you will regret it. God bless!
—Guest angela
undecided
I am a Christian, and I do beleive that waiting for sex until marriage is the best choice, but not only for religious purposes, but for your physical and mental health. On the other hand, I am very open to both sides. I do not look down on those who have had sex, and don't neccesarily glorify those who wait, but I can see the benefits of waiting. I know if your partner truly loves you you can wait, but what if you truly want to be with that person intimately? I do not beleive God will strike you down for it, but I do beleive he gave us this gift to present to the one we are meant to be with. But like my response title states, I am confused because I don't have a problem with either.
—Guest confused
God abhors it - It is a Sinful Act
The words of the scripture on this matter is clear and unequivocal. Christian, there is no room for you to compromise on this matter and use the standards of the world as a justification for engaging in such an act. Christian are in this world but not of the world. Noah and his family in the mist of all the sinful act of the world at that time was still able to maintain his purity to the lord. Paul writes to the Corinthian church in I Corinthians 6:12 that "everything is permissible.. - but not everything is beneficial". the body is not meant for sexual immorality and sex before marriage is a sexually immoral act. Your body is for the Lord. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do not base your judgment on what you feel is right or wrong because you are not your own for Christ is the lord of all lives. FLEE FROM SEXUAL IMMORALITY.
—Guest Gyabeng Henry R..
Against Sex before Marriage
sex before marriage is wrong for one one it doesn't make your friend love you instead he will feel you've had it with several others,and most especially the marriage will not be built on a solid rock which is God because in his eyes is bad imagine a marriage where God's hand is not in it, though is not easy to be chaste but there are benefits. one God will be happy, and in the marriage there will be trust for each partner.
—Guest peace
EVEN ADAM HAD TO WAIT
YES MY FRIENDS EVEN ADAM HAD TO WAIT UNTIL GOD GAVE HIM THE PERFECT PARTNER IF WE WAIT FOR GOD WILL JUST AS HE HAD REMOVED FLESH FROM ADAM AND MADE EVE IN THE SAME WAY HE WOULD FIND A GIRL/BOY AFTER YOUR OWN HEART AND SAME MIND SAME LIKES SAME DISLIKES SO THAT YOU CAN HARDLY FIND ANY DIFFERENCE IN YOUR THINKING .EVEN ISAAC HAD TO AND ABOVE ALL WE SHOULD KEEP OUR SELVES PURE TO MEET OUR HEAVENLY BRIDE JESUS WITH WHOM WE ARE GONNA BE TOGETHER HAPPILY FOREVER HEY ALL CHRISTIAN SINGLES GOD CAN HELP US
—Guest david michael
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